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Something I really appreciate about the neurodivergent community is our willingness to talk about “taboo” topics.

Topics like: psychedelics, sex, money, disability, death, the state of the world, privilege, power, and oppression… and more. Topics that make people squirm.

I’m not saying that every single neurodivergent person is 100% comfortable with these topics. But it’s been my observation that, as a community, we’re willing to confront the uncomfortable.

Maybe because, as neurodivergent people, we’re kind of a walking taboo anyway. Different. “Not normal.” Outside of the box.

It makes sense that we’re willing to talk about things that mainstream society prefers to ignore.

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Case in point:

For a long time, I’ve had a special interest in a topic that is deeply taboo — grief, death, and dying.

My relationship with death is complex, meaningful, and multilayered — and it’s also not as depressing or gloomy as people might think.

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❤️ Pausing here because I’m aware these are sensitive topics. If you don’t feel like engaging with them today, please feel free to shift attention to something else; or take mindful pauses as you read.

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I took a death doula training last year, where I learned terms like “green burial” & “water cremation,” and held rose petals in my hand as we rehearsed an end-of-life celebration ceremony.

One of my favorite books is Briefly, Perfectly Human: Making an Authentic Life by Getting Real About the End — by Alua Arthur, a death doula.

I listen to podcasts like End of Life University: Real Talk about Life & Death as I boil my tea in the morning.

And if you were to ask me to help you pre-plan your funeral today to make it as meaningful and loving as possible, I wouldn’t bat an eye. I’d say, “Great. Where do you want to start?”

My online shopping cart includes children’s books about grief, death, and dying – books like, The Invisible String, When Dinosaurs Die, and The Fall of Freddie the Leaf.

Why? Because 1) I want the children in my life to have access to compassionate education about life & death, and 2) these books speak to the inner child in me. The colors, visuals, and simple language of children’s books makes it easier to confront the uncomfortable.

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And all of these things, together? ☝🏽 They contribute to my complex, meaningful, and multilayered relationship with grief, death, and dying. In other words, they fill me with life.

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So, I share all of this to remind you:

• It’s OK to talk about taboo topics.
• Just because something is taboo (avoided or hidden away from society) doesn’t mean it’s not important to talk about, learn about, and start conversations about.
• Whether your taboo topic is death, psychedelics, sex, money, the state of the world, privilege & oppression, neurodivergence itself, or something else entirely, remember that your voice matters. Your perspective is valuable. Thank you for being willing to be with the uncomfortable.

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Feel free to reply and let me know: What’s a taboo topic that you’re interested in? I’d love to know.

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Talk soon,

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P.S. If you need help taking care of your nervous system, I’d love to support you. I offer ​Nervous System Healing Intensives​ — three 90-minute sessions, using brain-body modalities (Brainspotting, IFS, EMDR) that go deeper than talk therapy & help you feel better, sooner.

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Intensives are a type of short-term, accelerated therapy — for folks who are looking for something different than weekly therapy; who need longer than 50-min sessions to go deep & get to the root of the issue.

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P.P.S. Have the topics of grief, death, and dying been on your mind lately? You might like my recent blog post: How to Cope with End-of-Life & Death Anxiety.

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I help highly sensitive, neurodivergent adults heal their nervous systems & connect with their authentic selves.

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